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clothes shopping for her birthday would be appropriate?
-- FASHIONISTA IN CONNECTICUT

by
ABIGAIL VAN BUREN
©2014 Universal Press Syndicate

NEW WIFE’S WARDROBE
DOESN’T MEASURE UP TO
COUSINS’ TASTE
DEAR ABBY: My cousin recently married a lovely
girl, someone he’d been dating for a couple of years. Our
whole family loves her, and she’s always been very sweet
to us.
She’s very intelligent and kind, but the issue is her
wardrobe. She’s pretty but refuses to wear nice clothes.
Instead she wears baggy, boring clothes. Our family is
fashion-conscious, and I know my cousin has suggested
to her several times that she buy new clothing -- to no
avail. He thinks she’s self-conscious about her body.
Her birthday is coming up, and my sister and I would
like to take her shopping as a birthday gift to buy her
some nicer clothes. My cousin thinks she might not
appreciate it, but he agrees that she needs new clothes.
He also suggested buying her a gift card to somewhere,
although that wouldn’t solve the problem of which
clothes she buys with it. Do you think that taking her

DEAR FASHIONISTA: I think it is a nice idea,
as long as you do NOT frame it the way you have
to me. A better way to make the offer might be
to invite her for a lovely birthday lunch and some
“retail therapy.” If you then decide to peek into
a couple of clothing stores, she might be willing.
And if you find something appropriate and offer to
treat her as a birthday gift, she might accept. Keep
it light, do not pressure her, but compliment her
when she tries on things that flatter her.

DEAR ABBY: My husband of 12 years and I have an
ongoing disagreement about the language he uses when
he texts women friends. He opens his text with “Hi,
Beautiful” or, “Good Morning, Gorgeous.” I consider this
to be flirting, but he regards it as harmless even though
he knows it hurts my feelings because he doesn’t text
that way to me.
I trust him and don’t feel there’s anything going on
with any of these women, but I think he’s playing with
fire. The wrong woman may interpret it differently, and
that’s how affairs start. Do you think I am overreacting?
-- MISUNDERSTOOD IN THE MIDWEST

DEAR ABBY: My family is surrounded by neighbors
who are all friendly. We have cookouts together regularly.
Everyone contributes to the budget and food preparation
except one neighbor. He’s a single dad of 12-year-old
twins, and they show up to every BBQ without bringing
a dish or their own drinks, yet they all eat heartily. We
have run out of food for the intended participants (who
paid for the food) because of them. What’s the best way
to handle this situation without making an enemy of a
neighbor? -- FED UP WITH FREELOADING

DEAR MISUNDERSTOOD: Yes. Your problem
with your husband isn’t that he’s calling other
women beautiful and gorgeous. It’s that he ISN’T
complimenting you, and I think you should point
that out to him. Shame on him!

DEAR FED UP: Your neighbor may not be clear
about the rules. It shouldn’t earn you an enemy
for life if you point out to this single dad of twins
(with growing appetites) that these get-togethers
are potluck, which means everyone is expected to
contribute to the cost of the food as well as bring
a side dish so the food won’t run out. TELL him
what to bring. They should also help with the setup
and cleanup. If he’s uncooperative after that, he’s
a moocher and you all will be well rid of him if he
takes offense.

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